The Post In Which I Don’t Tell You To Get Rid Of Clothes That Don’t Fit
Here’s what I am not going to do in this post: tell you what to do.
Here’s why: the decision to take action on the subject I’m going to address must come from you and you alone. You must arrive at it with crystalized resolution. Otherwise, you’ll talk yourself out of it. Or you’ll change your mind. Or you won’t have the guts to rip off the band-aid.
Here’s what I am going to do: explain to you the effect that living with these particular conditions has on a person.
Here is what I’m also not going to do: indulge the reasons (ahem: excuses) why you’ve been living with this particular type of clutter. Ultimately, none of that matters.
There is nothing quite as uniquely demoralizing as owning a closet full of clothes that do not fit you.
The sight of racks and shelves full of clothes you know beyond a shadow of a doubt will not make it past your hips/over your chest that you no longer even try on–those eat away at your spirit with every gaze.
The garments you wish would still fit that you repeatedly try on, only to discover each time that they most certainly don’t. Those tell you that you still aren’t there, (Where? Back to where you used to be? Can’t go there.) and support the inferiority complex that is so un-lovingly communicated to you by society; the complex that you are responsible for quieting.
Owning a wardrobe comprised of ill-fitting clothing can make you feel fat, ugly, and worthless. Or, it can make you feel sickly, and feeble, and embarrassing.
It makes your average person feel as though what should be an easy task (getting dressed) is, because of his or her “problem” body, a painfully arduous, or just plain stressful, task.
Here’s a question: why? Why would a person knowingly or not subject themselves to such unnecessary frustration?
Another one: who ever told you that it was a good idea to–that you should— keep clothes that don’t fit (I.E. THE PRIMARY CRITERIA THAT DETERMINES WHETHER AN ITEM OF CLOTHING IS RELEVANT OR USELESS TO YOU).
And this: Who ever communicated to you that however much money spent on clothes how ever long ago is worth more than doing what’s necessary to reasonably support your sanity and self confidence?
Here’s what I know to be true: Loving yourself includes loving your physical self, and a self-loving person is a person equipped to be effective in their work lives and to be present with their family and friends.
Here’s what else: Loving your self completely, and loving your physical self, in particular, is damn hard. Maybe it’s our primary challenge.
And this: Any thing that makes it more difficult to accept yourself; any thing that is in opposition to your feeling that you are good enough and beautiful enough–that thing isn’t worth anything. That thing is a thing a person has the grounds to immediately dispense with.
No wait-and-see time period required. No thoughts about money long-since parted with.
Just goodbye. Goodbye to the representations of the message that you are not right just as you are right now.
‘Cause here’s the bottom line: All there is is right now. And right now, you’re alright.
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