Whether or not you realize it or would like to admit it, if you’re an independent adult, your daily life is your design. The privilege of getting to divvy up a chunk of 24 hours into segments as you see fit is not one to be overlooked. If you’re like most of us, you feel compelled to do a few basic activities like eat, sleep, bathe, work, and move. But the way that ...

  When we experience emotionally traumatic events, it’s tempting to dwell on our pain. Allowing ourselves the opportunity to process what we’ve lived through can be essential. “Did that really all happen?” We may want to ask ourselves. “Did it really happen the way I remember it did? Was it really as bad as I remember it being? What did it teach me?” The rehashing is necessary for clarity…until it isn’t. There comes a time ...

    If you consistently follow through on your promises (show up when you say you will, deliver a work product by a deadline you’ve committed to, support someone through a challenging time, exercise and eat well consistently, manage your household thoughtfully) you’re already doing more than most. To be excellent, you need to give credence to the quality of your efforts (which is a way of acting in service to your future self) and ...

I recently learned of the existence of “darkness retreats” wherein participants willingly deprive themselves of all light in order to experience a new appreciation for the beauty of sight. Not to undermine the sacrifice and profundity of such an experience, but summoning awe and reverence for something once you’re without it seems fairly easy. Counter-intuitive though it may seem, it requires much more insight and awareness to appreciate what you have while you have it. ...

  I see clients every day who have been stymied as to how to tackle their clutter and disorder. These are people who have been incapacitated for years (sometimes even decades), waiting for motivation to arrive that never seems to.  In a single session, these same clients transform from being anxious, overwhelmed and avoidant to voracious editors who must be pried away from the task by way of unbearable hunger and/or melting-down children. All they ...