The other day, I was talking to a friend about a health issue that she’s recently been experiencing.
She is brilliantly gifted at understanding the internal workings of the body, and of taking measures to establish ultimate wellbeing. She told me how she’s spent months trying everything she can think of to aid the issue, to no avail (yet). She was somewhere between frustrated and resigned. “It is what it is right now,” she said.
Something else though. In the wake of sharing the news of her current health condition, close to a dozen people had messaged her saying, “Hey, I think I might have that thing too.” And, “I thought that happened to everyone.” I’m also out here, dealing with this challenge, they were saying.
It seemed so obvious to me, then: she isn’t experiencing this thing alone. She is personally tackling a challenge for the sake of those people who had emailed her. And for the who-knows-how-many who hadn’t messaged, but are dealing with a similar issue.
With her specific knowledge and her particular skill set, she is in the unique position to be able to break through this barrier to health. Yes, for herself, and also for us all.
Things don’t just happen to one of us. They happen to us for everyone else. They happen for us to be able to give to others.
They happen to us so that we’re pushed to discover the cure. They happen to us so that we can share the story. They happen to us because they are the individual assignments we have been given as ways to contribute.
Hard things happen to good people because those people can then turn the hard things around into learnings, not just for themselves, but for everyone.
And what is the learning, in the end?
Compassion. That’s what it boils down to.
Our hardships are the bridges we build towards greater awareness and understanding for our fellow woman and man. Our cures and the stories of how to cope with this big, beautiful mess are our human-currency we perpetually owe each other.
Face challenges bravely. Be patient in uncovering the silver lining. Live lovingly and courageously for others.
You solve a problem and I’ll solve mine, and we’ll share the answers.