8 Winning Ways To Organize Hair Accessories

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Now, on the one hand, I feel as though I should provide fair warning that the subject matter of today’s post addresses a niche need. Then again, isn’t this entire operation overwhelmingly niche? Making such a disclaimer redundant? Great, then, now that we’ve got that settled, we can get on with it.

Little girls and their hair accessories are darling, we all (save those of us with cold, dead hearts) would agree. But strangely, unexpectedly, hair accessories are finicky to keep neat. I was personally reminded of this fact the other day, while in the closet belonging to two girls under the age of 10. A person basically doesn’t stand a chance at keeping things like headbands and hair bows in order without the specialized products meant to corral them, is the conclusion I came to (as I have every other time I’ve encountered hair accessories).

The good news, parent/guardian of the bowed up, headbanded humans, is that as soon as one has procured the necessary organizational tools, keeping hair-flair tamed becomes a feasible feat. And, what’s more, I’ve compiled your ultimate guide for tools meant to do just that. 

You’re welcome. 

1. velvet headband holder

2. Stackable Clear Plastic Headband and Hairbrush Holder with Accessory Compartment and Lid

3. The Ultimate Headband Holder

4. Hanging hair bow and headband holder

5. 4-section acrylic swivel organizer

6. Acrylic hair care organizer

7. Grey Bestow Hanging Organizer

8. Bobby pin holder



Monday’s Meditation: On Silence

Monday, October 15, 2018

Monday's Meditation: On Silence

Some of my favorite moments with my clients are the silent ones.

In between the endless strings of questions I ask them (“How often do you use the tweezers?” And, “Where do you stand to pack the lunches?” And, “Do you wear underwear to bed, or just pajamas?” And, “Would you be thrown off if the mugs lived in this cabinet, or would you prefer that one?”) and casual conversation about our favorite skincare products or restaurants or spice medley, there is very often silence. There’s us, focused on our respective tasks, not worrying about filling the space with words.

Initially, some clients feel they need to keep the string of conversation going. 

“No, no; that isn’t the way this works,” I say by being completely at ease in silence. 

There are times to talk and there are times to be quiet, and being able to tell the two apart is critical to your wellbeing. There are times to speak your opinions and there are times to keep your mouth resolutely closed, and being able to decipher between the two is vital to the health of your relationships. 

When you talk just to fill the air, you end up saying things carelessly, mindlessly, and unnecessarily. You stammer and ask stupid questions that I, for one, don’t care about answering. You make hurtful remarks, whether or not you intend them to be. You insert your opinion on another’s decision where you needn’t. Or, you sink to your lowest conversational tool: gossip.

Maybe the dawning of the proverbial comment section has lured us into thinking we always need to say something. Maybe we’ve been opening our mouths without giving enough consideration to what we’ll let out of them since we evolved into a species capable of speaking language. Either way, silence remains underrated.

Silence does not detract from an exchange, it amplifies it. It is the requisite contrast to conversation. With speech, we stimulate and relate. With silence, we reflect and process. We need both; two sides of the coin that is connectedness.

To make people feel comfortable around us, we do not need to supply them with an endless string of comments, remarks, and questions. We need, instead, to let them know:

Here, in me, is a person with whom you can be silent, some of the time. Here, with me, is a place where you don’t have to constantly Be On, where you don’t have to worry about words I’ll thoughtlessly sling your way. Here, with me, is a relationship in which you might not always get an immediate response because I’m going to allow myself to think carefully before I speak. Because I’m going to decide if I have an answer rather than decide what my answer is. And here, with me, is a place you, too, won’t be expected to always have an answer at the ready. Here, we are reveling in perfection of the duality that is speech and silence. Connection to other and connection to self. Reveal and reserve. Here, we are two people at peace in each other’s company.  



Difficult Decluttering: When All Your Peers Are Raving About It

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Let me ask you a question: have you ever bought or subscribed to various resources because those books, podcasts, magazines, and more, became the it-guide in your industry or area of interest?

Now, a follow up question: have you ever done as all the other parents/ self-employed lady bosses/ corporate bosses/ etc. were doing by purchasing or subscribing to a guide, which you find you never actually get around to reading/listening to?

And one more: have you now, or in the past, felt compelled to keep that book or digital resource in your life, even though you were evidently making no moves to digest it?

If my client sample is representative of the larger population, which I have to believe it is, then I would wager a lot on the answers to those three questions being: Yes, Yes, and Yes.

Difficult Decluttering: When All Your Peers Are Raving About It

I commonly see clients struggle to release the books and subscriptions, that have been touted as Essential Materials by others, despite the fact that they, themselves are not drawn to said materials.

“All the other [fill in the blanks] I know are raving about this book, so it probably contains information I would really find useful, and I should read it. At some point. Just not now,” is their guiding mantra.

I get it. We live in a society where self-improvement is the uniting religion, self-help books instantly become bestsellers, social media accounts and digital content goes viral, and everyone shares everything they’re reading and listening to at every moment of the day.

It’s ridiculously easy to be swayed, to be convinced of the need for something, especially where it concerns an area of your life where you want to be the best you can be.

Few people are immune to trends of the physical and virtual market. When everyone in your bubble seems to be reading, listening to, subscribing to, downloading, and enrolling in the same entity, most people feel inclined to follow suit. After all, you don’t want to be the only person in your field who is without the knowledge and advise that the chosen book, podcast, tv show, social media account, and so on contains.

Not wanting to miss out, not wanting to be the dolt who isn’t up to snuff on the latest digital marketing tactics or parenting hacks, you obediently click buy, subscribe, and follow.

Difficult Decluttering: When All Your Peers Are Raving About It

Plenty of these kinds of resources pan out. (If the material covered is about a topic that’s relevant and interesting to you, the chances are high that the material will be…relevant and interesting to you.)

But occasionally, they don’t. For a myriad of reasons too inconsequential to describe, you might find that even though lots of other like-minded people have loved a given resource, you just can’t get yourself to care about it.

(Now comes the advise-segment of this post, and you might want to consider taking some notes, because it isn’t obvious at all.)

The best course of action, when discovering that you aren’t interested in, or in need of, a book, podcast, etc, is to let that thing go. Donate the book. Unsubscribe to the channel. Move on with your life.

Let yourself off the hook. The more you focus on improving yourself, the more pressure you put on yourself to stay informed, stay up to date, and stay in the know. Sometimes, though, the purpose of flying with your flock, of buying what they buy and listening to what they listen to, is to remind you that you are a wholly unique being. You are a singular combination of curiosities, wonderings, and preferences. What does it for them may not do it for you. Evidently, you’re really doing alright without the information, anyhow.

Besides, holding on to that information-source is really just your fear; fear that aren’t good enough, skilled enough, insightful enough, or informed enough without that thing. And “without this thing I am less” is always, most dependably, a positively bullshit mindset.