True power is not, as is so often thought, dictatorial, oppressive, or corrupting. Power is the force of our authenticity, the knowledge that we are worthy of being here, and the confidence that relying on our intuition provides. Being in our power, counterintuitively, is what allows us to relax. From this stance, we know when to hold firm and when to be flexible. We hold the line between compromise with others and self-sacrifice. We communicate ...

  Even more invaluable than a truly helpful person is one who doesn’t wait to be asked for the help they provide, but who takes initiative.  Initiative is where genuine care, proactivity, and confidence meet. The person who takes initiative possesses a desire to contribute their skillset and ease the load of others to a level which supersedes what is merely expected of them. It isn’t just that they recognize where help is needed (lots ...

  One of my favorite exchanges I’ve had in recent months was with my client’s teenage daughter. She’s a talented cheer athlete, and competes nationally along with her twin sister. After we had finished editing their bedroom, I asked her, “What do you love most about cheer?” I’m embarrassed to admit that I expected her to say something to the effect of, “I love getting to spend time with my teammates.” Or, “I love my ...

  Most people end the year with notes of thanks. I’m ringing in the new year by suggesting we all orient our focus on gratitude. What I’ve learned is that gratitude is not the place you arrive at, but the starting point. Every morning since my mom died, I’d been thinking “I’m so grateful to be alive” the instant I wake up, and before I open my eyes. At the outset of 2023, I decided ...